The Unlikely and Remarkable You

Posted on October 25, 2013 by Robert Ringer


The Milky Way Galaxy consists of something in the neighborhood of 100 to 400 billion stars, depending on which scientist you choose to believe. Further, the Milky Way — only one of hundreds of billions of galaxies in the known universe — is about 120,000 light years in diameter, an unfathomable distance.

That said, if you were to shrink the entire Milky Way Galaxy down to the size of our earth, the earth itself would be proportionately reduced to a mere speck of dust. From a visual standpoint, then, man does not even exist! Relative to his cosmic surroundings, one might even be tempted to speculate that all of mankind is nothing more than an egotistical illusion.

But not so fast. Whether you got here through “accidental evolution,” God-created evolution, or the presumably more rapid Intelligent Design, the evidence suggests that you are, in all probability, the most unlikely and remarkable object in the entire universe.

Think about it. What kind of “accident of nature” could have possibly brought you into existence? How can a collection of atoms see, hear, laugh, think, plan, and, in addition, be aware that it does all of these things? Given the vastness of the universe, it’s seemingly impossible. But, nevertheless, no matter how you got here, you do exist! It’s a fact.

And unless you buy into the belief that your every thought was determined at the time of the Big Bang, you possess a gift that may not exist anywhere else in the universe: free will. When you think about the vastness of the cosmos, isn’t it just a bit remarkable that you, and you alone, among all other combinations of atoms, have the ability to make choices?

It’s interesting that after all these billions of years, there are only a little more than seven billion of us human beings inhabiting our cosmic speck of dust. To put this in perspective, scientists tell us that a shovelful of dirt contains more microbes than the entire earth has people. Yet, we are the ones who have been gifted with free will.

True, microbes were here before us and they will be here after we’re gone. It’s also true that some of them can kill us, though we can’t even see them. But, even so, we are superior to the microbes because we are actually aware that we exist. Likewise, even if a meteorite were to wipe out the entire human race, man still would be morally superior to it because, unlike the meteorite, he was at least aware of his existence while he was here.

So, yes, you not only are an unlikely collection of atoms, you are remarkable. Now, the question is, do you treat yourself like the special entity that you are? Do you actually live your life as though you are special — possibly the most special matter in the universe?

Do you fuel your free will with knowledge and wisdom — by reading, by thinking, by asking questions, by thoughtfully processing the answers, by observing, by experiencing life? Or does your free will lead you in the direction of unpleasant business and personal relationships, exhausting and fruitless confrontations, dishonesty, alcohol, drugs, and other self-destructive behaviors?

Unfortunately, as special as he may be, the reality is that man is flawed, so everyone is enticed into self-destructive behaviors at one time or another. But just because we are flawed doesn’t mean that we need to throw in the towel and make stupid and irresponsible behavior a way of life.

It’s also important to understand that man is genetically programmed to act in his own self-interest, no matter how much the self-anointed moralists among us may protest to the contrary. The fact is that self-interest is neither good nor bad; it’s neutral. What matters is whether someone is rationally selfish or irrationally selfish.

I bring this up because what determines whether or not you treat yourself like the unlikely and remarkable cosmic specimen you are is whether your actions are rationally selfish or irrationally selfish. If most of your actions are rationally selfish, you go out of your way to avoid engaging in the kinds of behaviors I mentioned earlier. If most of your actions irrationally selfish, you tend to be attracted to such behaviors, which is bad for you and everyone around you.

The out-of-control violence, lack of moral standards, decadent behavior, and anything-goes mentality that has overtaken our once civilized society is a devolution for mankind. I believe that underlying this devolution is the fact that people no longer see humankind as special. Their uncouth bravado is attention getting, to be sure, but it’s really nothing more than a cover-up for their fears and lack of self-respect.

Fortunately, you have free will and can therefore choose to be in the fearless minority — those who possess dignity, self-respect, and a desire to strive for concentricity between their words and actions. That’s right, you have the power to choose to make a conscious effort to treat yourself like the most remarkable cosmic specimen in existence.

And should you make that choice, you will be amazed at how most of your day-to-day secular “problems” magically disappear as peace of mind and optimism replace conflict, struggle, guilt, and misery.

Robert Ringer

Robert Ringer is an American icon whose unique insights into life have helped millions of readers worldwide. He is also the author of two New York Times #1 bestselling books, both of which have been listed by The New York Times among the 15 best-selling motivational books of all time.

10 responses to “The Unlikely and Remarkable You”

  1. Andrew Carson says:

    A very poignant article, indeed. I am not flawed. I am just a bit of clay in transition to perfection.

    I am not fearless, but I choose to stand up against my fears and forge ahead. I believe that one must not only "possess dignity, self-respect and a desire to strive for concentricity between their words and actions", but they must give that same respect and dignity to others. When done mutually, society and mankind evolves for the better.

    Still, we must rely on the others to make the same choice for themselves. They too have free will. I cannot make the choice for them or make them follow that path. I choose to follow that path for myself.

    Well written article, by the way!

    • Robert Ringer RJR says:

      Thanks, Andrew. And you're right, everyone has to make his own choices. Unfortunately, a majority of Americans don't do too well in that area.

  2. Mari says:

    I needed this. Thank you!

  3. Steve Barwick says:

    A great little kernel of insight that, like most of Robert's writing, blossoms with added meaning and understanding when you sit down and really think about it. The problem is, how do you get people who are on the irrationally selfish (and ultimately self-destructive) path to sit down and think on this level?

    Several years back I had the very fortunate experience of attending a marketing conference with my wife, at which we met two young black men who were barely 18 and had been former gang-bangers and graffiti artists. Tired of being arrested and jailed for their defacing of private property, and tired of the drug and violence culture around them, they turned their graffiti skills into a business by inventing graffiti tennis shoes — i.e., tennis shoes with graffiti artwork on them.

    The tennis shoes caught on in the hip hop culture, and then went commercial. The young men were at the conference to learn more about marketing their product, and were well on their way to becoming millionaires at a very young age.

    And why? Because they realized — whether on a conscious levels or not, I don't know — their utter and boundless uniqueness, as expressed through their creativity. And they decided to take the path of rational selfishness with their creativity, rather than irrational selfishness. They decided to express their creativity in a positive and productive manner, rather than a negative and destructive manner.

    Getting to talk to these two young men, and seeing the wonder in their eyes as they learned more at the conference and came away with a bevy of new ideas than they'd ever expected, was so refreshing I actually long to this very day to have the same experience again, because it actually gave me hope for mankind.

    The unfortunate problem is that this type of thing is seen only too rarely, at least, from my perhaps limited experience — leading me back to my original question: How do you get people on the irrationally selfish and ultimately self-destructive path to sit down, recognize their profound uniqueness in this universe from a positive perspective, and embark on a rationally selfish (and productive) path, instead?

  4. ronalddubois says:

    Another bit of well-written food for thought. We all make our choices, but where we used to have some direction, from being raised at a time where our parents and religious guidance were part of our daily instruction in which direction to head, and the difference between right and wrong, today's populace has not been given that moral compass. The Progressives (Socialists/Marxists) have spent decades tearing down the family, religion, and the sense of morality that we older folks were steeped in. I believe it was Madison, who said, "This Constitution is meant only for a moral and religious people; it is totally inadequate for any other." Today's problem is that there is a dearth of moral and religious Americans, for reasons too numerous to list. When we divest the Nation of the anti-American cadres in our Government, and return to religion and morality, we will again become the leader of the free world.

  5. Kevin says:

    Thanks Robert.

    This is an excellent article – it causes us to 'look up', rather than seek to understand our identity in the cosmic detritus of the universe. Unfortunately, the new atheists and those scientists who adopt their view of the world tend to espouse a position of hard determinism, rejecting the concept of free will, and defining our existence mechanistically, as merely a link in a chain of caused causes. The concepts of human dignity, free-will and self-respect are entirely antithetical to this purely naturalistic worldview.

    Thanks for your thought-provoking articles.

    Regards, Kevin

  6. Greg Post says:

    What a remarkably positive and uplifting counter-weight to the prevailing "philosophies" of our day – Thank You so very much for this !

  7. Loved this article! As always Robert Ringer gives us a sensible way to deal with a problem. Just one thing, best sources I know of say our Milky Way Galaxy is 100,000 light years in diameter, not 100 light years…

  8. Helen says:

    Very inspiring!! Thank you….