Turning Losses Into Gains

Posted on September 11, 2014 by Robert Ringer

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Sometimes it’s difficult to muster up the positive mental attitude to see opportunity in a bad situation. Things get so out of hand that it’s easy to become discouraged to the point of feeling despair. Those are the times when your mettle and sinew are really put to the test — sometimes very long tests.

The longest tests usually come in the form of mass oppression. To man’s shame, history’s list of brutal oppressions is very long. From the Jews in ancient Egypt to today’s citizen slaves in North Korea, oppression has been an integral part of human history.

But there’s also an interesting twist to oppression. In virtually all cases, the oppressed eventually escape or overthrow their oppressors and, quite often, begin life anew on a higher plane than before their oppression began.

How this phenomenon occurs is summed up in the words of English poet Francis Quarles. In his description of the concept of compensation, he opined that “there is no worldly loss without some gain.”

Which is to say that every adversity brings with it an equivalent or greater opportunity for success. We see this in a macro fashion in the rise of previously oppressed peoples, such as American and South African blacks.

And, of late, we watch in awe as India continues its incredible rise toward the top of the economic ladder. For nearly two centuries (1757-1947), the British had that vast Land of Enchantment by its political and economic throat. And, for the most part, Indians were loyal, well-behaved subjects.

There is no question that the British devoured India’s natural resources and kept its citizenry in check for nearly two hundred years. But, to its credit, when Britain finally threw in the colonial towel in 1947, Indians took over a country with a ready-made, highly educated workforce.

The British also left India with a language that made it easy for them to communicate with the rest of the industrialized world, a democratic form of government that protected both individual liberties and private property, and a reasonably modern infrastructure.

Given its pro-Western lifestyle and the fact that English is now the official language of the country, it would not surprise me if India became the world’s number-one economic power in the next fifty years, surpassing both China and the U.S. in the process.

In the above examples, the one big problem is that the opportunities available to later generations do not do their oppressed ancestors any good at all. Since you have only one life to live, it would not have been a good thing if, for example, you had been born in the Soviet Union in 1918, lived there all your life, and died before the communist dictatorship collapsed in the late eighties. It’s nice for your descendents to get a head start on your shoulders, but it’s even nicer if you can get a start on your own shoulders.

In the case of mass enslavements — such as that of the Jews in ancient Egypt, citizens of the old Soviet Union, and American blacks in the antebellum South — an individual could not take much action against his slave masters without being tortured or killed. But that’s not the case on a micro level in today’s Western world. Any individual in a Western country can still take (legal) micro action on his own, at any time, without anyone’s permission. His only constraints are those he places on himself.

Some people, for example, feel oppressed by their jobs. An acquaintance of mine, well into his sixties, recently told me that even though he became financially secure by working for big corporations all his life, he regretted not having left the corporate world and going out on his own. He lamented that no matter how much money he made, he always felt like a highly paid slave.

It wasn’t the first time I had heard such a lamentation. But, guess what? Every person who has lamented about being a corporate slave had a choice. Golden handcuffs in the corporate world are not locked. You can always slip out of them. All that is required is belief in your abilities, determination, and a willingness to take action.

And that’s true of any other area of life where you feel oppressed — even enslaved. Whatever the source of your bondage — job, peer pressure, unpleasant domestic circumstances, etc. — recognize that it is not a macro problem over which you have no control.

On the contrary, you have the power to escape at any time. The only question is, do you have the courage to utilize that power and transform it into action? You can make all the excuses in the world as to why the time isn’t quite right to make your move, but that’s all they will be — excuses.

Throughout history, oppressed peoples would have loved to have been in a position to escape their bondage overnight simply by taking individual action. But, sadly, they could not. In most cases, it took small actions by many generations — over a long period of time — to bring about an end to slavery.

Isn’t it nice to know that you don’t have that problem? In a vacuum, your problems may seem big to you, but, in the overall scheme of things, they are micro in nature. And micro problems can be overcome by taking bold, individual action. Remember, the only constraints are those you place on yourself.

Robert Ringer

+Robert Ringer is an American icon whose unique insights into life have helped millions of readers worldwide. He is also the author of two New York Times #1 bestselling books, both of which have been listed by The New York Times among the 15 best-selling motivational books of all time.

13 responses to “Turning Losses Into Gains”

  1. bob says:

    love your post Robert , seems to always hit home for me in the current situation iam in,, please keep on doing a great job on your subject matter ,, you see to aspire –to–inspire—before you expire,,, great!!!!!!thnx ,bob

  2. How'd ya get so smart, Robert? (lol)

  3. Amy O'Donnel says:

    Good one. Thanks for the reminder. I've not been a corporate slave for 9 months, and I'm cashing in my little retirements, but on the flip side, I'm also working towards being self-employed–a dream I've had for a long time. Once I get started–and it only takes one client–I'll move up that ladder and start looking for my own little place in the country.

    Finally.

  4. Sandra Sandy says:

    This one hit the nail on the head. We certainly are the makers of our own destiny. Great read.

  5. Serge says:

    Thanks Robert, I'm in a Western country. No more excuses for me, time for action.

  6. Mpho Rammusi says:

    Inspiring we are afraid to effact change because we be little ourselves, thank you very much for the piece.

  7. Richard Lee Van says:

    As the Existentialists pointed out, it is all about CHOICE. As long as, of course, a person is acting in accord with his or her talents, AND interests. A "burning desire" and "never give up" attitude all help. But why does the way seem to open for some and not for others? I choose to believe that there is a "spiritual" dimension at work also. Being "in synch" and following inner direction. Then the way opens. It remains kinda mysterious but I am often amazed at how seeming negatives, when handled intelligently, become positives… and one ends up better off than before. If a person has the good sense to understand it.

  8. Scuffy Rubric says:

    "The only constraints are those you place on yourself" – again, bingo Robert. This goes so well with the article Lauri just wrote on Destiny. My comments there could go here as well.

  9. Murray Suid says:

    Robert, why is it that some people can escape the handcuffs and others can't…or won't. Is there one decisive factor that allows some people to turn losses into gains while others do nothing or even worse, make losses into bigger losses?

    • Jean says:

      Hi Murray

      It seems that one major factor is risk, or the perception of risk. For example, the woman who is abused by her boyfriend believes the risk of living alone is worse than the possibility her boyfriend will kill her or at least cause serious physical damage. Clearly, her perceptions are off by 180 degrees, but in her mind, she's perfectly level-headed in her choice to stay. The perception of risk also causes one person to stay in a soul-sucking job rather than to look for something that has the potential to be better ("What's the use? The next job might be even worse. At least here I have seniority and a couple weeks' of vacation.") When people act in a way that is "not to lose" instead of "to win," then they limit themselves.

  10. american real says:

    I love reading between the lines. Very well expressed, very well expressed indeed.

  11. Kailash says:

    Very well put,,,,I have a new viewpoint about India! In one post, you have re-vitalized me, Robert, Thank you!