It’s always a bad idea to try to …

Posted on May 7, 2015 by Robert Ringer Comments (3)


It’s always a bad idea to try to figure out why someone is rude, negative, irrational, abrasive, arrogant, or just generally neurotic. You’re much better off to simply make a mental note of what you observe and chalk it up as a phenomenon that is beyond human understanding. Then, most important, quickly move on to more productive matters.

Passive fascination with an annoying person is a harmless thought process. But if you allow your fascination to become active — i.e., if you feel a compulsion to find out why, say, a jerk acts like a jerk — you’re sending a message to your subconscious mind that your time is not very valuable.

Dealing with neurotic people is a job for professionals in the psychiatric field who get paid to be actively fascinated. But the rest of us should be humble enough to admit that we have no idea why neurotic people act the way they do — and let it go at that.

Robert Ringer

+Robert Ringer is an American icon whose unique insights into life have helped millions of readers worldwide. He is also the author of two New York Times #1 bestselling books, both of which have been listed by The New York Times among the 15 best-selling motivational books of all time.

3 responses to “It’s always a bad idea to try to …”

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    Great idea Robert!

  2. Thanks Robert for such an amazing advise. It is good to do this because the more productive we are the most productive results we will get.

  3. YES, this is the information that I had been wanting to read all day. I am so glad that you finally provided me with this information. I just hope that you don't stop here and keep on going with the same spirit.

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