Here’s my contribution……

Alone

Lonely is so needy,
It’s spongy, soaky, squishy,
When a grown man tells you he’s lonely,
Trust me, there’s something fishy.
Now ‘alone’ is a different story,
We are all born stand-alone,
We have our say; we go our way;
Own the “No Parking” zone.
I can achieve whatever I dream,
‘Alone’ lets me focus from afar,
I live in a vacuum, a resonant vault,
Leave my soul slightly ajar.
Look inward when you’re alone,
For that hidden strength, that self-esteem,
You believe nobody owes you happiness,
And life ain’t a dollop of cream.
So I move on alone, achieve great ends,
I celebrate myself and my beautiful source,
Even though she sleeps with some fast talking salesman,
I don’t feel no remorse.

Celebrities go even deeper on this course, because of the sheer dimension of the objective–to be loved and accepted by ALL people.

It’s doubtful that most of us “little people” would handle wealth and fame any better than celebrities do. Imagine trying to live a life where you’re trying to get EVERYONE to like you. We can’t even do that in our little realms, let alone out in the big, bad world.

If people are so in need of self validation by the need of having to have someone, or millions of someone’s, adore them or in their lives, rationally that person will never find lasting happy because their validation is based on the ability to keep and retain that external validation. That’s not possible. Being in constant fear and anxiety of losing that external validation and love, a person can never achieve true happiness, as well as give love to others out of free choice. Love in that context and the desire to be loved, always then will originate out of insecurity and fear.
It’s a vicious circle with no possibility of contentment and no chance at long and consistent happiness.

I haven’t felt lonely for a long time. These 2 years I have been home mostly, working on a website project alone. Most of the days I don’t talk. I don’t have a girl friend. But amazingly, i just have this inner peace and joy because I have God.

First let me say thank you for all the wisdom contained in your writing.

Now, this article strikes at my heart my man. The subject of loneliness has weighed heavily on me of late. I have never had financial wealth, but I once had what I can only describe as utter social wealth, i.e. ALOT of great friends I saw regularly. In the last last few years they have ALL moved away. And I have been so busy working my arse off trying to “become successful”, that I have not devoted ANY time to my social life and the end result is, I now feel poorer than at any point in my entire 30 yr. life.

Oh, that and I am drinking way more than I ever should be, which only compounds the problem, as alcohol is a mental depressant.

Can you say Downward Spiral…

Solitude is good, under the right circumstances, but ISOLATION IS NOT.

Regards,
Charles